one week, 3 dates and a random face mashing
yep, that was my week. im not a total slutbag. i swear. its just that i would love to meet someone i connect with and these people are asking me out. unless i see a REAL reason to turn them down i keep and open mind and go with it. ride the wave. the ratio of bad to successful dates is glum. something great is around the corner. has to be.
date #1 is a match with teach. we met at lala’s. lala’s is such a great place for that. dark, great juke box,, people watching and you can smoke! the problem is that hot pockets was there!!! “hot po-ck-ets” (singing) one of the first match dates i went on was with hot pockets. the guy seemed interesting. we like the same music, his picture was cute though only showed his face and only 2 pictures posted. always a RED FLAG. i thought what the hell. maybe he’s chubs or just doesn’t have pics. any ways, somehow in the beginnings of conversation we get on the subject of groceries and it surfaces that his diet consist of things such as hot pockets and bagel bites. im not a total food snob, but i am surely not going to eat that shit daily let alone try to woo someone over my taste in junk food. and yes, he was/is chubs.
ok, so teach is super sweet and we had a great time. out of excitement for an adult connection and that he is super in to me i went for it full force. i even decided to grow up and get over the fact that he has an insane man coat. i mean serious bear. we hung out 3 days in a row. the red light started flashing when the third date consisted of watching baseball on the sofa and barely speaking. well, other than a 4 hour convo about how many different ways he could say he didn’t want to date anyone else and pause for my reaction. most of us know that you just don’t do that on the third date. i mean come on. you can feel that way, but use caution with saying it or at least HOW you say it. like maybe mention it once in a cute way. i made the mistake of saying such two weeks into hanging with someone i was really in to. he was already a bit of a man whore but my saying that i didn’t want to share him put a fire under his trot to the hills plentiful of lady lumps and sugar bumps. needless to say, now i am trying to figure out how to nicely and honestly say i am no longer interested.
random – saturday i went to a huge dance party and ran into an old friend. a year or so ago he an i went on one date and then he kinda blew me off. i wasn’t devastated and we have always been cool with each other. this time we were both wasted on whiskey, beer and nostalgic music. we made out like teenagers on the dance floor. WTF? how old am i?
date #2 wed i made plans with a friend from houston. we both grew up there. now that we live in the same city after 10 years we are trying to hang out. he used to have a huge crush on me, but i got married, divorced and was not super attracted to him physically. he has always looked like a little boy. suddenly he is starting to fill out a bit and man it up in the physical sense. keeping my eyes open with this one. he has a good job (brain doctor!), smart, cute and when he relaxes we have a great time. if i don’t find the attraction soon im gonna have to cut the line though. just friends sorta thing. its not fair to him and i know what its like being on that end. lame.
date #3 was last night. this situation is pretty much the same as #2. this guy is super sweet, cute, talented and we have a ton of mutual friends. i love hanging out with him but i am just not finding the attraction. i gave both of these doods a peck goodnight after our dinners. is that ok? i don’t want to lead them on, but i also felt like what the hell, i had a good time and a peck is a peck, nothing more. i just don’t want to jump his bones. physical attraction is very important. especially when it comes to sex because its one of those things that tends to dwindle over time. the sex tends to get better, but you have a lot less of it. so i figure its best that you want to eat each other up at first right? can such a thing grow with time? hrrrmmm…
tonight i have a date with “random” we will see what happens.
